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Hey there, welcome back to The Next Brave Step Podcast! I’m Chelsy Weisz, your host, and today we’re diving into the final stage of my signature coaching method, The Next Brave Step Blueprint. Over the past episodes, we’ve covered all the previous stages: The Reckoning, Evaluation and Strategy, Massive Action, and Course Correction. Each stage is essential for setting the foundation and propelling you forward on your journey of transformation. Today, we explore the final stage: Receive and Repeat. This stage emphasizes the importance of accepting and embracing our success. Let’s dive into the challenges and actionable steps involved in accepting our goals and celebrating our achievements.
You might find yourself self-sabotaging just before reaching a goal or hitting an upper limit of success and happiness. This phenomenon, often referred to as the “Upper Limit Problem,” is a subconscious way of keeping ourselves in a comfort zone. It’s important to recognize this behavior and understand that it’s a common obstacle in personal growth and success.
Let me share a story that recently unfolded in my life. One of my dear friends was nominated and won an award for Police Officer of the Year. Despite her hard work and dedication, she struggled to accept the recognition. She felt she didn’t deserve the award and believed other cops were better. After the awards presentation, she wasn’t herself, feeling tired and isolating from friends. This story highlights a significant challenge: understanding our self-worth.
Self-worth plays a significant role in how we perceive and accept success. Many of us, especially women, struggle with not feeling like we deserve our achievements. Social conditioning often leads us to undervalue ourselves. Women are taught to be modest, not boast about achievements, and stay in the background, impacting our self-worth.
Carl Lonefell discusses how social norms condition women to think small and accept less. She writes that women are socialized to prioritize others’ comfort over their own ambitions, be likable, agreeable, and non-threatening. This conditioning leads us to fear outshining others and being seen as too much.
Feelings of shame and guilt often accompany success, especially for women. When we feel undeserving of our achievements or fear being judged by others, these emotions can hold us back. Brene Brown, a renowned researcher, and author, states, “Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we are not good enough.” According to Brene, the antidote to shame is empathy. Sharing our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding can help us overcome shame.
Self-compassion is about being kind to ourselves and recognizing our achievements. Here are some practical exercises to help:
Celebrating your achievements, no matter how small, reinforces the value of your effort. When I booked my first photography client, I held the check for $75 and said, “Thank you, thank you, thank you.” This simple act helped me celebrate my achievement and express gratitude. Create your own celebration ritual, whether it’s treating yourself to a special meal or taking a day off to relax. Make it a point to celebrate every milestone, big or small.
Having a supportive network of friends, family, or mentors is invaluable. Surround yourself with people who encourage and uplift you. Stay connected and share your progress with them. Their support can boost your confidence and help you embrace your success.
This is the final stage of our journey together, and I want you to leave this episode feeling unstoppable. Remember, your dreams and goals are not just valid; they are worth fighting for. You’ve come this far, and it’s time to own every bit of success that comes your way. No more playing small or shrinking to fit into others’ expectations.
Listen up: You deserve to achieve every ounce of success, every moment of joy, and every bit of recognition. It’s time to break free from the chains of self-doubt and social conditioning. You are powerful, capable, and deserving. Stop letting your past define you and stop letting fear dictate your future. You have worked too hard to let anyone, including yourself, hold you back.
Embrace your worth, celebrate your journey, and never shrink yourself to fit into someone else’s idea of who you should be. Dream big, act boldly. Your success is not just possible; it is inevitable. Go out there and claim it. You’ve got this.
Reflecting on your journey and acknowledging your achievements is crucial for continued growth. Ask yourself tough questions and honestly reflect on them. Understanding your self-worth is critical for accepting success. You have the power to design the life you want.
If you haven’t already, consider joining The Brave Step Collective. It’s an amazing community where like-minded women share their struggles, actions, and successes. Inside this community, you have access to monthly trainings, group coaching, and limited one-on-one coaching. If you’re ready to take it to the next level and have personalized help along the way, join The Brave Step Collective.
Thank you for joining me on this journey. It has been incredible to hear your stories and see your progress. Remember, you are never alone on this journey. Every small step is a vital part of your incredible journey. So, get out there and take that next brave step forward. I’ll be right here, cheering you on.
Accepting success is often hard due to self-doubt, social conditioning, and feelings of shame and guilt. These factors can make us feel undeserving of our achievements.
Improving self-worth involves practicing self-compassion, using daily affirmations, gratitude journaling, and surrounding yourself with a supportive network.
Celebrating small wins can include creating a personal ritual like treating yourself to a special meal, taking a day off, or simply expressing gratitude for your achievements.
Social conditioning often leads women to undervalue themselves by teaching them to be modest, prioritize others’ comfort, and avoid outshining others, which impacts their self-worth.
The Upper Limit Problem is a subconscious behavior where we self-sabotage or hold ourselves back just before reaching a goal or experiencing significant success, keeping us in our comfort zone.
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